COUNTDOWN TO RESPECT
Know what you believe in and stick to it. Nothing loses you respect quicker than inconsistency.
Keep your distance. Be friendly but not over familiar. Don't confide intimate details.
Keep your own counsel. Don't share all your dilemmas. Even if you resolve them you'll have left the impression that you're 14)indecisive or unable to cope with pressure.
Don't ask anyone to do anything you wouldn't do yourself.
Communicate—simply and often.
Keep your eye on the objective.
Don't get drawn into colleagues' personal lives.
Keep cool. Don't respond instantly or say yes to everything.
Keep your head. A calm presence is an invaluable asset.
Be good at your job. Know that you're good. Self-respect is the key. It'll show up in the way people deal with you.
Accept that you can't please all the people all the time—or even some of the people all of the time.
GENTLE PERSUASION
The woman who builds her professional edge in this way isn't condemned to loneliness and isolation. You can be firm without being unpleasant, and being tough doesn't mean being rude or confrontational. Persuasive and assertive are the watch words.
"To make the right decisions and push them through, you will need the kid glove more often than the boxing glove," Lumley suggests. And a sense of humor is vital.
If you're doing your job properly you'll seldom be everyone's favorite person. But the payoff comes in the form of a deeper liking and admiration. Respect is like money in the bank: You have to put it in before you can draw it out. Don't worry about popularity, work on respect. That will take you a lot further in the long run.
让人重视你的注意事项
清楚自己的想法并坚持。左右摇摆会让你在别人心目中的形象大打折扣。
保持你的距离，友好却不要太亲近，不要和同事袒露太私人的细节。
把决定权拿在自己手里，不要事无巨细都向同事请教。因为即使你已经自己解决了问题，你会给人以优柔寡断或无法面对压力的不良印象。
连自己都不想做的事情就不要麻烦别人去做。
与同事的沟通——直接并经常。
一直盯住你的目标。
不要纠缠于同事的私人生活中。
保持冷静，对听到的任何事情不要立刻表态。
保持理智，镇定是你工作制胜的法宝。
善待你的工作，相信自己能胜任。自信是关键，这也会影响到人们对你的态度。
明白自己无法让所有人都满意，就是让一小部分人满意都很难。
温柔的说服力
以此构筑自己专业优势的女性不会注定孤独或受到别人的隔离。因为你可以通过不令人生厌的方式表达你的不同意见，坚决并不代表要粗暴或挑衅，要做到耐心劝服与坚定自信并重。
詹妮-伦莉说：“做出一个正确的决定并去实现它，你更需要的是哄小孩的耐性，而不是要和自己的同事拼个你死我活。”而幽默感也是很重要的一环。
尽职做工作并不能使你成为大家都喜欢的人物，可这样做的报酬却相当可观，它能让你得到更深层次的喜爱和仰慕。尊敬就如同银行里的钱一样：在提款之前你必须先往里面存款！不用担心自己的人气指数，让别人注意到你的工作表现，从长远来说，这能助你迈向成功之路。
